Conquering Mom Guilt!
I personally, think that one of the hardest things about being a mom is the mom guilt.
I know it’s crazy, but for me, feeling like I’m missing out on something important is so much worse than the sleepless nights, sick days, temper tantrums, and all that other not-so-fun stuff that comes with being a parent.
For me, mom guilt is something that I feel more often than not. First off, as a stylist, I’m expected to be on 24/7 for my clients. I’m not only working on one of their most important assets (hair), but I’m also talking all day, which means that some days, I come home in full zombie mode and have absolutely nothing left to give to my family. But while my weekday zombie mode is no joke, I stopped working Saturdays a few years back because I was missing out on too many of my kids’ extracurricular activities (plus general family time!).
The guilt hits during the week though, too. I can’t even count the amount of nights we’ve ordered take out or had pizza 3 (sometimes 4, haha!) nights in a row because I just couldn’t bring myself to cook. I seriously envy the mamas that have the time (and energy) to whip up Pinterest-worthy lunches and gourmet dinners on the regular, but I’ve come to terms with the fact that that’s just not me…and I’m totally okay with never being like that.
When I start to feel guilty about working so much, I remind myself what I’m trying to teach my kids. I want them to know that if you want something (whether it’s a house, a new electronic, a car, etc), you have to work for it. I want them to see how passionate I am about what I do so that they never settle for a job they don’t absolutely love. Because to me, if you find a job you love, you’ll never work a day in your life. And that’s truly how I feel about what I do – my “work” doesn’t feel like work at all.
Over the last couple of years, I have had a close look at how entitled the younger generation really is. The vast majority of people I’ve worked with have been in their early twenties, and I’ve found that finding hard working, self-motivated team members is far from easy. Because I’ve seen this first hand, I’ve made it my mission to keep my kids from becoming entitled A-holes (because let’s be real, we live in a world full of ‘em). I want them to be different; to understand accountability, job performance, and how working hard is the key to getting what you want. And while I sometimes feel like we are the drill sergeants of parents, I know we’re doing something right when my kids offer to help clean the dishes when we’re at a friends’ house for dinner.
What are your thoughts on mom guilt?
Does it hit you like it hits me?
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